3 must have steps to add to your daily routine!

3 must have steps to add to your daily routine!
In your journey to finding true happiness and advancing into living a happy life there are some things that you need to add to your daily routine. You brush your teeth daily correct? You get dressed every day right? These things that I am suggesting can be done while you are getting ready in the morning or before you go to bed at night or both. I do my daily affirmations twice a day. 

I look in the mirror and remind myself every day these three things. 

1. What is my reason WHY? What is driving you towards wanting a better or different life? What lights your fire and gives you the motivation to be a better person, to dream bigger, and to make a difference in the world? For so long I did not know my purpose. I had a life filled full of traumas and I just wanted to survive. Dreaming was out of the question because it took energy I needed and I was scared to be let down like I had been so many times. Make sure when you write down your reason why that you are very clear so that when you remind yourself daily then it imprints in your brain and becomes a must have.  For instance, my WHY is that I want to not only help others that are struggling with their self worth and confidence after trauma but I want to help my daughter, my step children always have the tools they need to tackle anything that life throws at them. That is my WHY. Help this generation and then next generation and many generations to come be unbreakable and unstoppable! 

2. Discover what you like and dislike. Remind yourself every day to cling to the things that make you feel good and not the things that make you feel bad. Grab a piece of paper and write good/bad and really look deep inside yourself and be honest with yourself. Even down to the things that may seem petty to you. Self discovery is everything. You NEED to know what makes you happy and do more of those things and weed out the bad. There is so much healing that can be done in these discoveries.

3. Mindset training. Train your mind every day to think of the good and not the bad. When we hear a scary diagnosis and they say 1/5 people do not recover from this then that is all we hear. What we need to focus on is 4/5 do. I teach my daughter to find the good in the situation. When she gets in trouble for something she thinks her world is falling a part and she says you always are mad at me. I slow down her mind and say lets discuss this. When was the last time you were grounded or in trouble? She said last month. Exactly so you have been good for an entire month and you used to be in trouble once a week. Look at the progress that you have made. That releases the stress on her mind just by reminding her that she has been doing so good lately.  Train your mind to see the good. It will ease your stress and allow you to see the bright side instead of the dark side.

These 3 things are so important on your journey to thriving. Self talk, self appreciation and self love are not selfish, they are necessary.  If you are loving yourself then you will express more love to those around you. You will start to attract more love in your life and be one step closer to livin' a happy life.

Angela Newhouse
Never Give Up!
Don't just live...Thrive!
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3 reasons why creating personal boundaries is important!

3 reasons why creating personal boundaries is important!
You are less likely to be manipulated-being manipulated can happen and you may not even know it. You will start to wonder, did you make that decision or did they make it for you? Setting personal boundaries can help you from having people walk on you or manipulate you. Being manipulated is less likely to happen to people that have set and clear boundaries.

It helps you define who you are and gives you self awareness-If you don't have self awareness then there is the possibility of you taking on the persona of others and not being your own self. People with no personal boundaries can easily fall into the crowd and be a follower and it may not always be in your best interest to follow others. They may not have the same morals and heart as you do. What are your likes, dislikes and what morals do you have? What boundaries do you want to set? Do you really know what you want and who you are?
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It sets clear expectations to those around you- If you do not set clear expectations and make it known to those around you then they have no clue how to act. Maybe you don't like cussing around you. If you don't express yourself and set the boundary of no cussing around you then how will people know? Maybe you don't like to be picked on. Maybe it overwhelms you or makes you very upset. By setting clear expectations and communicating with those around you then it sets a personal boundary around you that others will respect. Example:  If you truly want the negativity around you to stop then set clear expectations and personal boundaries in regards to not allowing negativity around you. You will see your life brighten with every positive moment.

These are just a few reasons to set personal boundaries but you need to:

Know who you are.

Know what you believe in.

Know what you will allow around you and what you will not allow around you.

Having these personal boundaries set will help you from falling victim to abuse.

Angela Newhouse~Author
The Scars That Built Me (Published book)
Never Give Up!
Don't just live...thrive!





3 reasons to keep your mind open!

3 reasons to keep your mind open!
We all get a little narrow minded especially if you have a lot of drive. You focus on the end goal and go for it! That is great but sometimes during that journey you focus so hard that you don't keep your eyes open for other opportunities. So, I am going to give you 3 reasons to always keep your mind OPEN.

1. YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS OUT ON GROWTH-  Life teaches us so many lessons if we just pay attention. We have opportunities every day to learn something new. Whether it is personal growth or growth in our jobs, we have the opportunity. If you are close minded then you may never see the beauty in learning something new.  You will be stuck in the same place and never move forward. Every single one of us need growth throughout our lives. We aren't born perfect and full of knowledge. Keep your mind OPEN!

2. YOU DON'T WANT TO MISS A LIFE CHANGING OPPORTUNITY- I have always had the thought of wow my life is a little crazy and I should write a book to help others. It was just a thought. Had I been close minded then I would have never picked up on some information that led me to learning how I can "actually" write a book and get it out to the world. Me 10 years ago would have been so focused on surviving each day that I would not have looked forward into seeing how beautiful the future can be. If you are focusing so hard on one thing you may miss out on seeing things around you. It is like parents who sit on their phones all of the time and the child comes and asks them to come play and they keep saying wait a minute. Pretty soon the child stops asking and it isn't until then we realize we have lost precious moments and opportunities to create memories with them. Don't be close minded.

3. YOU CAN FIND INNER STRENGTH THAT YOU NEVER KNEW YOU HAD- If you do not have an open mind then you may never dig deep inside of yourself and challenge yourself to go for that new dream. You may never even dream. You may think that your life has met its max capacity and you just feel like you need to ride it out. NO. There are so many things that you can add to your life to go from just living to THRIVING! If you close off your mind then you may never know that your life can get better than it is today. It can. It can always get better. If you have an open mind then you will find yourself challenging yourself and finding a new strength within yourself to want to obtain those dreams. Change your circumstances, open your mind and DREAM of all of the possibilities out there for you, for your children, for your family and friends! I never would have guessed that I would be able to write a book and put it out there to the world. I would have been scared of failure, scared of criticism, scared of drawing attention to myself. Today I feel freer that I have in a long time by knowing that my book is being released. I have a new sense of strength inside of me that I never knew was there and that in itself is a beautiful thing.


Angela Newhouse
Never Give Up
Don't just live...Thrive!

3 "must be done" steps to finding yourself!

3 "must be done" steps to finding yourself!
We have all gotten lost along the way, but we haven't all found our way back. Life throws us curve balls and knocks us off course and it is our job to navigate it and keep going. For a very long time, I fought so hard to be made of steel, to be able to survive anything, to be numb to the world so that it could not hurt me. When I was living that journey I closed off some of the greatest parts about life and I definitely lost who I was and who I wanted to be. 

These are steps to help you get back on the right path so that you can enjoy life and know exactly who you are.

1. Make sense of your past so you can move forward- What does this mean? This step is for you to really dive into your past and wrap your head around the things that happened. There may be things that you are holding on to that affect you in a negative way and those things may not have anything to do with you as a person. I held on to some abuse that happened to me and I always felt like I was defective. I felt like there was something about me that caused the abuse or that I drew it into me. That was wrong and I know that now but it took me a long time to realize that there was no way to change the situation, that it was not me and when I made sense of it all then it was a relief. I made sense of the situation and realized that it was the another person that had issues, not me. If it wasn't me, they would have abused another. So when I stopped carrying the heavy load on myself and made sense of the situation that was out of my control, then I was able to heal, grow and truly find myself inside all of that internal turmoil. 

2. Silence your inner critic because you can't grow with negativity tearing you down-We sometimes tend to be our worst enemy.  I am the type of person that feels very deeply. If I do something wrong, there is no worst critic than me. While that may be good to have a conscious and to be self aware, we do not want to let it control us and prevent us from being the best version of ourselves. If we dream of running our own company or of climbing the corporate ladder to the top, then let ourselves dream! Do not let our inner critic ruin this journey for us. Silence it. 

3. Think about what you want to have in the future-Live out your dreams! If you do not let yourself envision the future then where are you going? You will be stuck in the present with no direction. How are you supposed to really know what kind of person you are, what kind of person you want to be, and what kind of life you want to live if you don't have a vision of the future. Take the "grow up, go to college, get married, have kids" vision as an example. How are you going to know where you want to go to college? How are you going to know where you want to live? How are you going to know where you want to raise a family or even if you do want a family? I know that we can't control all aspects of our future and that we sometimes end up in a totally different place than we want to be, but sometimes we don't. My step daughter always said she was going to grow up and live in North Carolina and well, she made that happen. Moving across the US to a place that she envisioned her future being built showed a lot of self awareness and you have to find yourself and know yourself to do that. 

Take some time to yourself and really deep dive into making sense of your past and letting go of all of the negative. Get rid of your inner critic and change your mindset. Use all of the wonderful positive things that you know about yourself to build the greatest version of you. Make the biggest and loudest voices in your head the positive ones! 

Angela Newhouse
"Never Give Up"
Don't just live...Thrive!

3 things to help you get started with CHANGE in your life

3 things to help you get started with CHANGE in your life
There are many things in life that can hold us back but why not keep going? 

What is it going to take for you to learn that life CAN get better?

So much of life can be turned around with mindset. Take me for instance, I have had a long list of traumas or set backs but I keep going. Why do I keep going? Because I know the answer to the questions below.  Knowing these three things can help you get started. After that, move on to my FREE 30 day Don't just live...Thrive challenge. You can join my free group by clicking this link and finding the challenge listed in the UNITS section of the page.

Ok, back to the 3 things to get you started. Do you want a happier life? Do you want a better life? What do you want to be different than it is right now? Why is it bad the way that it is?

1. What do you want to change about your life? Don't leave it open ended. Drive this down to the nitty gritty details. Don't be scared, this exercise can actually help you determine exactly what you want. You may not know and this will clear things up. It might be a few things. Write them down. You need to reference this any time that you feel like you can't remember what you wanted. Trust me, it happens.

2. Know your WHY. Why do you want to change these things? What is life like if you don't change these things? Why are you doing this? Is it for your kids, your family, you? Know exactly WHY you want to make the change. Make this very detailed because you may need to remind your self every day until you build more and more strength to make the change. These things will keep you going when you feel like quitting. 

3. What is end goal? Be clear on this. Don't just say I want a happier life. Define what will make it happy. What is your end goal?  An example would be I want to be healthier. Don't just stop there. Nail it down to "I want to be healthier so that I have more energy to play with my kids". Specifics will help you from getting lost in the big picture and losing motivation. When you decide what your end goal is then create the steps to accomplishing that goal. What do you need to do first, second, third etc.

Now this is just a touch of what I have planned for you all in 2021! Get signed up today to learn more! Follow the link, join the group and get the FREE 30 day challenge !  

Angela Newhouse
WWW.AngelaNewhouse.COM
Never Give Up
Don't just live...THRIVE!

 
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