You are rushing around day in and day out. You have kids to get ready, a household to keep up, a husband/wife to please, your job to go to and many more things. It can get exhausting! We get so used to just living our lives and "dealing" with whatever is thrown our way that we forget to look for stressors. Why should we look for stressors? So we can ELIMINATE them. Many people do not even know the true damage that stress does to our body. One of the biggest stressors that people do not even realize is emotional stress that comes from verbal abuse. Yes, I said it, emotional and verbal abuse. I am not just talking the ladies of the group who you think oh she is being overly sensitive or she is being a girl (She is a girl by the way) but it can go both ways. The husband can be verbally abused by his wife also. There are more and more unexplained medical issues showing up in our bodies daily and we just roll with it. The Dr.s prescribe prescriptions to help with the pain or discomfort and then we just continue our lives until the stress breaks us. Our bodies start shutting down, our emotional state starts getting numb, our performance at work starts slacking and our children look at us like we are just zombies walking around and they see us walk right by them and we don’t even acknowledge their presence.
Enough is enough! This comes from personal experience of being in a very dangerous relationship where a lot of verbal abuse was going on and I thought I was tough. I thought I could handle it. It wasn’t until the stressor was removed and the abuse began to slow down that I realized that a lot of my symptoms had been initiated by the stress my body and mind was going through. I had no clue that it was affecting my body. My mind, yes I knew that. My body? I was clueless. To me it was emotional and yes it was scary and yes it was “stressful” but I was just dealing. You just take things day by day and continue on. There is no other option, deal with it and keep going. I discovered later in life that there were things that could help that I never even knew existed.
My 3 bits of advice if you are going through any kind of emotional or verbal abuse.
This could be from your spouse, your boss, anyone really.
- TAKE CARE OF YOU-Make sure that you do not allow your immune system to be compromised. When your immune system gets so stressed that it starts shutting down then you won’t be good to anyone because you will be a physical mess. Pain, stiffness, gastro issues and the list is literally endless. A lot of us don’t have the option to just remove ourselves away from the abuse so why not do our part to help our bodies? Get immune boosters! Start building up what you know is stressed out and breaking down. I don’t care if it is actual immune boosting capsules or if it is select essential oils that are specific to the stress you are going through. Do your research! There are so many natural products out there that can help us and that can help our bodies be the best they can be, even in the worst of situations. Best case scenario is always to remove yourself, ask for help, and get out, but lets be realistic for a moment and just say the raw truth. It is easier said than done. So help yourself in other ways. Find things like Frankincense, Harmony, Ningxia and many more to boost your immune system. You do not want your list of health issues to grow. Whatever you do just make sure that you are taking care of YOU.
- FIND A SUPPORT SYSTEM-This is a key ingredient to staying healthy too! Free your mind by getting things off of your chest. I am not talking about complaining and being obnoxious and blabbering all of your issues across town. I am talking about finding someone or even a group of people that may share your concerns and just discuss things. You can find a lot of help in group settings. So many people think that they are going through things alone or that they are the only ones having that particular issue but nine times out of ten there is someone else out there that knows exactly how you feel and that in itself can give you comfort by being able to talk to them about their experiences and the best parts of how they overcame the issues. This will relieve some stress off of your body, carrying it all by yourself only adds stress.
- WOOSAH- Yes I said that word. If you don’t know what it is then look it up! It is like what the doctors tell you when you are about to give birth…control your breathing, slow down your heart rate, relax your body. Ok we all know that is bullshit and we sometimes can’t calm ourselves down but we really do need to learn to do that. Times will get better, issues will pass but there can be lasting effects on your body if you don’t deal with stress correctly. I know we are all tough (I am for sure), I know we all don’t need anyone else’s help (we are fooling ourselves with that one) and I definitely know that we know everything about everything (at least I do - not). So my advice to you is take the time to just breathe. Woosah through the tough times because things will get better. It may not be today, or tomorrow, or 5 years from now or in my case 20 years before I seen the abuse lift a little where I could breathe but when it does you need to be strong enough to enjoy life on the other side! I am getting there and it is fabulous. Every day gets better and better. Life gets better and less stressful every day. I mean we all have our normal stress. Kids didn’t clean up their messes, the husband didn’t do what we asked for the billionth time, your boss is a hell raising, whip cracking unappreciative psycho but hey that’s normal every day stress. Emotional and verbal abuse is a whole other ball game. It breaks down our bodies on the inside. They always use to say sticks and stones can break our bones but words can never hurt us. They lied. Sometimes it chips away at our healthy bodies and deteriorates them. So the best thing you can do for your body is WOOSAH -De-Stress Mentally!
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Start every day with Ningxia!
Have any of you felt like that? Laying in bed in the morning and before I even open my eyes and start my day, I am already exhausted. How is that possible? My body feels so heavy and I would swear that in the middle of the night someone either stacked a bunch of sandbags on top of me or stuck me with an IV and filled me full of concrete.
Now, start your day. Get UP! There are things to do, work to be done, children to give attention to, family members to love but nope you just can't. It is an uphill battle to drag yourself out of bed and get in the shower. Isn't a shower supposed to be refreshing? Why am I sweating and exhausted by just showering? That kind of defeats the purpose of getting clean when you are literally sweating just from washing your hair and shaving your legs. This was my life. Crazy isn't it?
Here are 3 things that I learned during my journey:
Never, ever, give up and settle with "this is my life". There are so many options out there these days to get help for whatever you are going through. Fight for your right to feel better. Fight for your strength back. Fight for a better life! I believe settling is not an option and I am a researcher so if you do not know where to start, message me. I would love to help you find a better quality of life. I am not promising that it is easy because it most definitely is NOT. However, the joy and peace that you will feel when you have the energy to play with your children, the strength to pack up the horse trailer and go to a horse show with your friends, or the drive to get out and do yard work with your husband is irreplaceable.
Trust your GUT. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong then it is right. If your doctors are telling you all of your test are "normal" and you are fine so go home but you know your body and you know that you used to be strong, you used to be motivated, you used to have energy, then you keep digging and do not back down. Always trust your gut and dive deeper into researching things on your own if you have to. We know our bodies. If you are a strong guy who is always working hard, or who is always active for long hours of the day and you are feeling sluggish and tired all of the time for no particular reason then look into it. don't just ignore the signs and your gut feeling of something is wrong because your ego doesn't want to admit it. I am not saying you have to be a physically fit and in shape person who all of a sudden feels weak, tired and unmotivated. I am talking about those of us that are living our lives, work hard, play hard, and are always go go go and one day you hit a brick wall and think to yourself I "used to be able to do this" or " I used to be able to do that" and you really can't think of a particular reason why and your doctor says you have been evaluated and all is normal. That nagging feeling in your gut saying no, I am sorry but this is not normal, LISTEN TO IT.
Never Give Up, Trust Your Gut, and have Courage!
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